Why is the one question that you never ask a teenager or, in the profession of social, you never ask the client. The reason is that there is no way to answer that question in a meaningful way. We all do things and have no really good explanation as to why. Perhaps the most painful version of this is when we have lost someone or some very difficult event has crossed our paths. We ask, “why me” or “why now”.
The real question is not why but what now? Why something happens is irrelevant. There is no good answer for that particular why. Instead, we must ask what now. You see, asking why paralyzes us and keeps us in the negative cycle of needing to understand something that cannot be understood rationally. What now moves us forward.
In the New Testament, you find the verses that say, “everything works for good, for those who love God and are called according to His purposes”. Taken at face value this seems to teach us that bad and evil things are done by God and we need to accept it. Perhaps there is another view. Perhaps the verse points us away from why and toward what now.
If you take these verses as the what now, then they make sense. In the worst of times, we are not alone and we can choose to take that experience and use it to learn something or to inspire ourselves. the part about “called according to His purposes” directs us to do things from a point of faith, that point where we put our ego (our personal needs) aside and search for the way through the ordeal.
Perhaps, just maybe, we should start each day with “what now” and look for the way through.
TMM